It is a family day care day for me today, but I have all my little friends breathing soft sounds of slumber in the next room and so I sneak a chance for a cup of tea and a little internet time.
My friend Melissa posted something on her blog today that really started me thinking about how to put things into perspective. Melissa has had her fair share of surprises and disappointments in her journey as a parent, and I was heartened to read about how she makes it possible for herself to FEEL and express her disappointment and then take time to look at it another way.
To read her post visit http://aylasrainbowconnection.blogspot.com/2010/02/if-this-was-good-what-would-it-look.html
She asks the question, “If this was good, what would it look like?”
It took me a while to understand, but I think it refers to reframing your experiences and looking at the attributes, flow-on-effects and feelings that could come out an unhappy experience, in a positive way.
It is something I’ve been working on within myself for a while … and without thinking about it in the terms Melissa described them in, I think I’m getting the hang of it. The turn around from worry and disappointment to acceptance is getting smaller each time. There is always another way of thinking about a situation, always another viewpoint from which to gain another perspective, and then … if you can’t find one … there is always acceptance, which is hard, but sometimes it is the only thing to do.